Disastrous surprise indeed...

It's taken me more than two weeks before I finally post this entry about the series of unfortunate events happened lately...hmmm to start with it was my hubby's birthday on 18th Feb and a week prior to that I cracked my already messy head trying to figure out what plan should I do for him and I finally chose to prepare for in house candlelight dinner for 5 :) Wow!! For 5? You might ask...Well, I know if it's just me and him it would be more romantic but my idea is that I wanna try to include the kids as much as I could in our current life and have as many celebrations as we could together with them before they are big enough to have their own kind of party on their own in another part of the world and burn a hole hopefully in their pocket and not ours :D. By then most likely we'll be invisible yet memorable in their minds..So the idea of having a candlelight dinner for 5 wasn't too bad was it? Apart from the fact that something didn't turn out to be the way I had planned.

On the said day, we (me and the 3Ds) woke up early preparing the list of things we should do in order for the plan to success. First, we went hunting for ink cartridge refill for the printer and photo papers which is needed for my incomplete scrap book as his birthday present. Then, we headed to Tesco to do groceries shopping. To be honest, it was my first time trying to cook western meal and I had really big trouble choosing over tenderloin, sirloin, rib eye or whatever steak as I had no idea of what the differences were and due to time constrain I didn't bother to ask for advice or suggestion and perhaps kes buat2 pandai la nih :) Shopping list checked, we went back home and started preparing dinner.

The menu was  Main Course; Dry Beef Steak (didn't have time to make the gravy or google for the gravy recipe), Side dish; Mashed Sweet Potatoes and Salads, Dessert; it's meant to be Non Bake Cheesecake but I think because I use the normal cream cheese rather than double cream cheese it became ice-cream like cheesecake but the taste I tell you was superb! It's just the consistency that went haywire.

The kids had fun helping me out mashing and bashing the sweet potatoes, mixing and stirring the cheesecake mixture and setting up the table.  I guess it's the whole process that got them excited and looked forward for daddy's arrival so we could yell "Surprise and Happy Birthday!!" but unfortunately that didn't happen..

The kids fell asleep waiting for daddy and seeing that I was heartbroken. 

When my husband finally arrived home, I was just glad that he arrived safely but I wasn't in the mood for any kinds of celebration. All I wanted to do was to get a sinful sleep after a long tiring day going here and there with three kids trailing behind me,beside me or maybe all around me..I couldn't even remember.

Awoken by the children's laughter the very next day, I came out from the bedroom seeing the children were already at the dining table waiting to enjoy the candlelight dinner turned sunshinelit breakfast. Joined by me and hubby they had a good time still talking about daddy's birthday. Boy!! What do these naive but curious children know?? My heart sank with happiness, sadness, disappointment, anger and gratefulness all at the same time. I knew I wasn't behaving strangely because as a human I'm pretty sure we'll be heartbroken if something didn't turn out the way we wanted it to be right? He had his own reason for being late, I had my own reason to be angry and disappointed while the children had their very own reason to still laugh and put a smile on their pretty faces just to have mum and dad around even though everything else in their world turned upside down.

Things done can't be undone and all that mattered was the fact that we had loved each other, still in love with each other and will always be, InsyaAllah.. I love keeping this in mind "In a relationship when we are stuck in an unavoidable and unfavorable situation or circumstances it's how we deal with it that makes the difference in the outcome". I needed time by myself for a little while to come back to my sensible mind and that's when I decided to have a journey to the center of my heart (Cewahh!!) and yes...still with three kids trailing behind, beside or all around me..I can't recall this too. Till then, here are some of the pics of that disastrous surprise ;D

dhani and alyssa's menu :)

ours..

the non bake cheesecake turned ice-cream like cheesecake :)

Yun yum!

As you can see, no pictures of us enjoying the meal as we only ate the meal the next morning and  by that time I wasn't in the mood to snap photos anymore :(

ADIOS :)

A little prick won't hurt! A big mouth does!

There I was in the clinic for my medical check up as instructed by the new company that hires me. Well, I was there on Monday and donated a tiny bottle of my urine for them to check and probably to make sure there's no drugs substance like heroine or weed or whatever. I'm pretty sure I don't do drugs and I don't smoke weed so pheww...but not sure if I'll be in trouble when they found seaweed substance in my urine? Hehe..hope not (mmm...yummy seaweed crisps :) They told me to come back on Tuesday as the cut off time for blood test lab is at 3.30pm and I was there at 4pm. As said by the nurse, they can't keep the blood overnight, it has to be fresh blood so that means I had to go back there again. Huh! Talking about fresh blood! I felt like turning into vampire and kill them to get fresh blood to fulfill my thirst.

Yesterday, again...I walked into the clinic halfheartedly knowing that there'll be a needle poked into my arms in any second. The nurse called my name and asked me for another tiny bottle of urine AGAIN! "The other nurse said I don't have to do this today, just the blood test and X-ray" I told her. "We need it fresh Miss" and so she said. Talking about fresh urine! I felt a little intimidated by the nurse but doing what I had in mind won't help a little bit so I just went.

When I came back from the toilet, I sat on the sofa waiting for my turn for X-ray. A guy sat next to me asked if I was a new hire in Boustead company just like him and of course not. I don't even know what company that was. What more, it sounds like bas**rd which describes exactly the person I chat with (based on my first impression). Here goes his tale of a champ. He had to quit his high paying job in Sarawak 2 months ago due to work stress and demanding workload even though he was provided with a transport, a house and a maid. So to speak, after rejecting an offer from Qatar based company, he is now hired by the Boustead company as an Engineer and will be based in Lumut, Perak with a little less income which he doesn't mind as long as he's near to his sickly mother in Selangor.

I hoped the guy stopped talking right there...and he didn't. He started going on about his next plan to find a wife preferably a teacher just so that she could manage the house, do all the chores and care for the children and him. My ear started to burn and my hand started to feel itchy and felt like slapping somebody but sticking my a** on the sofa and kept listening was all I could do as there were too many people in the clinic and I couldn't move elsewhere. If he's not being a pain in the a** he could have said "I want to find somebody that I could love, care and she doesn't have to work because I'll make sure she'll get everything she needs"
Sure enough that will only happen in dreams and fairy tales. Men in the new era is expecting a lot in women just like the big-mouthed guy I mentioned, he wants to marry a teacher...why teacher? Because she still earns salary that he could sometimes share too! Nonetheless, he left the best part; chores, child minding and house managing to the future wife sob,sob...I hope his future wife will have the greatest strength to deal with this BIG-MOUTHED guy.

Come on...it's not that hard to understand is it? Marriage is not about what 'she' and 'he' should do and shouldn't. Not about what ones expectation of the other. It's about adapting and complementing each other and yes, Love. 'Loving each other till death do us part' is commonly heard in wedding vows but it will never be the same kind of love from beginning till the end. The LOVE in a marriage will evolve and it's up to us to adapt to the changes, to complement and support each other to get through it. One can't expect the other to do something without giving something in return and so the other person can't do something hoping will get something in return. Easily said than understood or done right?

No matter what, life has its turbulence, ups and downs and I'm going through one now...emotional turbulance contemplating on going back to work or not. The world is getting more materialistic so without material like paper, copper or silver ($$$$  that is), you can't survive in a city center with just one breadwinner to feed five mouths!  I'm so thankful I have such a wonderful sleepyhead husband who has flaws and mistakes but remains humble and silly and supportive to make my day easier,brighter and funnier. Plus three kids with amazing personalities (Grumpy, Clowny, Loudy) that makes my life even crazier than ever!!
Times up! I need to pick them up from the daycare as they are currently in so called 'settling in' period so that they can adapt slowly and the transition will not be too shocking for them when I start working next Monday.


xoxo